How the Quarantine Changed My Belief

Up until this pandemic I would get my hair cut every 5 weeks.  My hair is short and I like it that way. 

My hairdresser has been cutting my hair for almost 30 years. He and I have a thing going about the hair on my forehead (my bangs).  I like to leave after the haircut with them nice and short.  I hate to have them in my eyes during the month. 

He says to me that I either look good leaving or coming back for the haircut.  He votes for making it look good when I leave his shop. It is a good advertisement for him!

He offers to cut them during the month at no cost to me, but I never have time to do that.  It isn’t worth arguing about, so we do it his way.

Needless to say, about 2 weeks after the cut those bangs are in my eyes and I get frustrated.  Even when I pushed them aside, they still fall into my eyes.  UGH!

Are you wondering why I didn’t get the scissors out and fix them myself?    Something held me back.  Years ago, someone maybe my mother or a hairdresser told me not to do that because I would ruin my hair.  I’d look like a freak.  All these years later I convinced myself that I should not cut my own hair.

Sometimes we aren’t even aware that we are working off old rules that need to be changed.  Out of necessity during the pandemic I had to examine my options and maybe change.

After almost 30 years of being annoyed and sure that I would do a terrible job, I got the scissors and nervously cut the hair. It looked fine.  No one even noticed I did anything except me and I was delighted the hair was out of my eyes. As the quarantine became longer, I ventured into cutting the sides too.  Even that didn’t look too bad. 

I probably won’t have a haircut for a while.  I am now more confident that my hair can look ok with my cutting it. The only part I can’t see is the back.  Maybe I will make one long skinny braid in the back.  It is certainly saving me money.

What stories do you tell yourself that hold you back?  What rules do you follow that need to be changed?

Read more about beliefs:

Do Your Beliefs Prevent You From Being Happy at Work?

Beliefs Can Hold You Back

Coaching opportunity

Do you have something you know you want to do but something stops you from doing it? Is it causing you feelings of stress and lack of confidence in yourself? It may be a belief or an old story you have been telling yourself that holds you back.  If you want to find ways to move forward a coach can help.  I’d love to discuss your situation and determine whether we can work together.  Give me a call at 617-240-5353 or email me at asparker@asparker.com.

Share

Comments are closed.

Free Values Assessment
To ignite the spark within you, get your free values assessment, newsletter and tips list to be happy at work.
Free Values Assessment
To ignite the spark within you, get your free values assessment, newsletter and tips list to be happy at work.